what if they knew... the message behind the label
YOU were the one to keep the peace at home when mom and dad would fight. You became the peacemaker, but so much so that keeping the peace now means letting people walk over you as if your feelings don’t matter even the slightest. You’re too afraid to rock the boat, so why not settle it in your own mind so you don’t disrupt the peace?
You got whatever you wanted growing up! Not because you wanted a brand new car on your 16th or a fully paid college tuition but because they tried to buy your affection and now you’re known as the one who doesn’t have to work for anything, “Just ask daddy!” You can hear them now.
or perhaps...You’ve jumped from one marriage to another. The first one didnt work out because they cheated. But the second just seemed to not work. Now that you’re single and engaged again you’re already dealing with the whispers of people thinking the 3rd marriage isn’t going to last, or that it couldn’t be that special. Just give up now; save the embarrassment
He’s a lawyer and had a full ride scholarship for baseball - an allstar! She earned her masters and went on to get her Doctorate with tuition assistance for grades - a Scholar!Now that you’re in school and have no idea what you want to become, you know there’s a lot riding on your future, and yet because you seem so ‘average’ at everything maybe you don’t have it in you to be anything great. The struggle is real.
Every other relationship has failed after 3months (or less than) And what they don’t know is that its just because they weren’t the right fit for some reason you feel compelled to make this one work; even though you already know it might not be a good fit either. Pressures on.
Maybe You went straight to the top of the industry with your good looks and fancy negotiating skills (even if they were a facade) and soon after you reached the top, you became socialite that everyone knows. More recently you’ve found yourself in your late 20s feeling like there’s nothing noteworthy of your life, except fantastic party skills. What happens when you decide to go back to school at 28 or 32? What will they think of you then?
Partner after years of discipline now he expects you to follow in his footsteps too; but he was an alcoholic and had a terrible home life. You love and serve your family well, but the road to partner doesn’t seem so easy, or desireable for that matter.
Don’t make partner and disappoint your dad! Or live to what’s expected of you and make everyone around you happy, except at the cost of your family?? Really?? Man up. Provide for your family. Dont show anyone your weakness
If anyone knew the real struggle. You act like you don’t struggle with much, but joke when the rest of the crowd jokes about pop-culture, yet you can’t seem to get enough: Its always one more drink, one more excuse to party, to satisfy that inner desire... When no one’s watching you’re able to look up those images. You got this, just dont let people know you’re an addict and you’re good to go.