Date a Girl Who Travels

A year or so ago I read a Huffington Post titled "Don't Date a Girl Who Travels." As I read through it I found myself nodding and saying "yes" out loud to many of the statements:

"Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch.  She won't party at Republiq because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.  Chances are she cant hold a steady job. Or she's probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn't want to keep working her ass off for someone else's dream. She's working towards her own. She's not sure when the next paycheck will come but she goes out and takes what life has to offer her.  She goes with the flow and follows her heart, she dances to the beat of her own drum.  When waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn't surfing. She is independent and talk to strangers..."

The article also says the "girl who travels" doesn't need to be rescued. She cooks and is independent and she won't try to impress friends or parents. She can't hold a steady job. Is hard to please and doesn't want her time to be wasted by boring details of life, money, or people. It makes it sound as if girls who travels doesn't care about money (which can be true to some extent) but it also sounds as though she wouldn't care about anyone else, or perhaps her heart is too broken that she won't let anyone else in.

The article finishes by saying "So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her and if you unintentionally fall in love with one, dont you dare keep her. Let her go."

Now, here's my long-overdue response; but well intended. 

Perhaps something to think through and share if you agree.

My urge:  DATE a Girl Who Travels....
She's the one with enough frequent flyer miles from all of her adventures, that they pay for the next adventure. She is able to get dressed to the nine's and walk the red carpet, or dress properly for church; but she also can be the girl with the wind-tossed hair, lip gloss and a snapback.  Workout clothes are probably what she lives in.  But she lives for the weekend. And she can dress to any occasion.

Date a girl who travels if you want to book impromptu flights to see your favorite band play, escape to the beach from the winter landlocked states, or go for a weekend to see your family across the country.  She will be your best asset when looking for airline deals and already have her bags packed, so all you have to do is ask.

She knows she can hold a steady job, and she has...For years!
She also knows what it is like to be unhappy working for the wrong dream; so she is a dreamer, but also a doer and a go-getter.  She is driven and will stop at nothing to find or create her dream "work" situation.  She realizes finances are important to have in line, but refusing to experience life to build the biggest 401k is something you will never get from her.

Date a girl who travels. She knows what commitment is.  Maybe she freelances and moves every couple of years, but she knows what commitment to the right person is like. Because while she's not afraid to talk to strangers and love them like Jesus would; she has been friends with the same friends for a lifetime.  She values people and loves well.  She wants to know their stories.  She wants to understand. She also wants to know all the stories that make you; you! Ones of laughter and pain. She probably can resonate all too well. Her scars remind her of her past, but her heart is in tact and she has allowed her heart to heal.

Date a girl who travels.  When the waves are calling, or her soul is getting antsy for a new adventure; you can be sure you'll have an unlimited list of ideas and dates to have fun on.
A road trip becomes a blast because all that matters is the soundtrack and the person you're with.  She may book your hotel or find friends to stay with so you can know you aren't going to sleep on the streets, but she's also okay with just taking in the moments and living out an adventure in a new city as a sojourner would.

Dating a girl who travels may feel like she will never need you. She does know how to cook and can survive off the bare necessities. She doesn't need you to pay for everything.  She won't be upset when you choose not to travel with her, but that's because she's a free spirit.  She may forget to check in with you every hour; but don't take it personal.  She is confident in her own skin and living life so she won't wait for you to jump in with her. BUT, if you want to; If you can support her without being threatened, then JOIN her! Many will join her at one point or another for that trip of a lifetime experience. They may become her friend for life.

Date a girl who travels.  She will be a little hard to understand at times, have 1000 ideas to make the world a better place, want to experience surf and yoga retreats, climb volcanoes, see a symphony in Austria; explore vineyards, and have 10 best friends in every city you visit.  But because she wants to fully LIVE life, is passionate about the journey and experiencing it, she won't grow old. She will always be curious.

When she realizes you don't want to change her and you're on board and can embrace the layers she has; she will want to keep you.

Date a girl who travels for keeps.  She does want a side-kick and a lover.
She will share her deepest dreams of changing the world with you, then ask you to help her.
She may even shed tears as she bears her heart and the journey she's lived.  If it doesn't scare you and you're okay to embrace her messy beautiful self and join her for Thai food IN Thailand, or even just on your living room floor with takeout; my advice; JUMP IN!

Date a girl who travels.  I promise it wont ever EVER be boring.

And IF you can let her know she's safe to fall. . . she just might.


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